Japanese tidying guru Marie Kondo helped us pick out the things we want to dispose of, trendwatcher James Wallman takes it a step further. In his book ‘Stuffocation’, he explains how we can resist the urge to buy more.
According to James, each and every one of us has too much stuff. He believes that, rather than material things, it’s experiences that bring us happiness. ‘It can be a revolution in our thinking.’
Did you make a list of new year’s resolutions, because you always do? Then you might be way too early, because there’s a much better time to start.
Lose a couple of pounds, enjoy life more, spend more time with the family, quit smoking: every year, lots of people start with new year’s resolutions. It’s an ancient tradition: 4000 years ago, the Babylonians already made promises to their gods at the beginning of a new year.
January seems like a perfect, logical time to start changing your life for the better. While the last days of the year go by, you look back on the past year and decide about the things you want to change. With high expectations you look forward to the new year. But the busy holidays, the Christmas get-togethers, dinners and other social obligations make it difficult to actually prepare for it.
What would be a better time to start with new year’s resolutions? August or September!
Just after the Summer holidays, a new season starts. School and studying begins again, you go back to work, back to the gym, with a relaxed summer time behind you. The summer holidays give you more than enough time to reflect on your life. Time to zoom out, and to realize in a sunny place what it is you’re really longing for. It bubbles up, you don’t have to actively think about it.
In August and September, people feel more relaxed and have more energy – important if you want to make a change. After the holidays, we’ve detached from the normal, the every day life. It makes it easier to really change what we want to change.
The notion of ‘new year’s resolutions’ is often linked to restrictions. You have to improve your fitness, so from now on, you have to go for a run every day. You can’t eat delicious cake anymore; from now on, you say no to every treat.
With this approach, most people are likely to throw in the towel after a week or three. Unrealistic goals are impossible to reach, and besides, they often don’t spring from your deepest desires. If you really want to work on your condition, you know it’s better to start with a daily walk than a daily bootcamp. Especially if you’re just not the type for that kind of thing.
So don’t put the bar too high. If you ask too much of yourself all at once, it will reduce your will power. It’s better to divide your resolutions into small steps. That way, you can be proud of yourself with every step you take.
Did you already make a list of resolutions for 2019? You may want to check your list again, just to find out how they make you feel. Do they make you feel genuinely enthusiastic, or do they make you feel tired and stressed? There’s still time for a change of plans – if you want, you can wait until August.
Text: Eline Hoffman – Photo: Amy Shemblen
Have you ever wondered where the crystals you buy come from? They literally come from the belly of the earth, where they have been taking shape over millions of years. So they need someone to look after them from time to time. You can cleanse your crystals, but you can also charge them with new energy.
According to crystal expert Martijn Antonius, most of the clear stones benefit from sunlight. “I put my rock crystals in the sun quite regularly, for example.” Translucent stones benefit most from the light of the full moon, and opaque ones can be charged in the earth.”Here’s a rule of thumb. Amethyst, aquamarine, aventurine, beryl, celestite, citrine, kunzite, larimar, malachite, opal, rose quartz, tourmaline, fluorite, and turquoise don’t like the full sun. It makes them fade, or even crack. Some stones, like citrine and selenite, cleanse themselves and don’t have to be cleansed or charged very often.”
As always when working with fire, you need to take care. This is a quick-fix charge – think of it like plugging in your phone to top up the battery. You don’t need to hold it too close for the heat to burn off the bad energy. Pass it through once or twice and then place it on a natural surface, cloth, sand, soil, or Himalayan salts, to ground it, and to allow it to settle and soak in the recharge.
Energy healing is wondrous. It’s used on our bodies to reorient the spirit and to best allow the body to heal itself. If you are interested in energy work such as reiki, you can take your crystal to sessions to recharge at the same time as you do.
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You can simply place a stone somewhere, or wear it, and wait for a miracle. Something wonderful might happen, but you could be disappointed. The most effective way of using a crystal is to let it help you strengthen an affirmation or intention. This is a positively phrased message you want to give to yourself. Here’s a number of examples of affirmations:
Write down an affirmation or intention with which you want to work. Choose words that suit you, don’t use negative phrasing, only positive ones. So something like ‘I am no longer afraid of love’ becomes ‘I am open to love’. It’s important because your subconscious doesn’t know the difference between statements and denials.
Now take your crystal to a quiet place and make yourself comfortable. Hold the stone in your hand. Breathe deeply and calmly. Observe the crystal from all sides, take your time, feel how it lies in your hand, how heavy or light it is. Maybe you want to turn it so you can see all its radiance and colors from all sides. Ask yourself why you chose this stone. How does it make you feel? Is there a message it wants to give you? Continue to breathe deeply and calmly, and hold the stone to your heart. You can also lie down with the crystal on your heart. Say your intention or affirmation out loud. Repeat it a few times, say three, or for as long as it feels good. Feel what this does to you. From now on the crystal will carry your intention, and every time you see it or touch it, you can feel how the intention gets stronger. That can help you bring this affirmation about in your life.
Text: Hanny Roskamp
Source: The Power of Crystal Healing by Emma Lucy Knowles
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