Times change, people change. At work, we’re used to having an annual performance interview– to talk about how we’ve changed and how we’re doing. Why not schedule one of those with yourself every year?
At work, a performance interview is a moment when employee and employer sit down together and see whether both are still happy. What’s going OK, what could be better?
There are things to be said about this method – some think it’s a bit outdated. However, it can be a great inspiration for checking in with ourselves. Just take a moment and reflect on what you’re doing and how you feel about it. Do your relationships and friendships still make you happy? Are you challenging yourself enough?
Change is the only constant
As humans, we tend to let life pass on by sometimes. We once chose to study subject A, so we keep working in that field for the rest of our lives. Once we’ve found the job we thought we always wanted, we made an effort to make it a success. Even if our gut feeling tells us that this job doesn’t make us as happy as we thought it would.
The same goes for relationships and social activities. We do things we always did, because we once liked them. But people change, preferences change, interests change. The things you loved when you were twenty, aren’t necessarily the things you love when you are thirty. A friendship that once meant the world to you, may have lost its meaning a few years later. Just because you once took guitar lessons, doesn’t mean you have to keep playing the guitar for the rest of your life. And just because you once loved to party, doesn’t mean you can’t be a homely person now.
Still ‘performing’ the way you want to?
That’s why it’s important to have a ‘performance interview’ with yourself every once in a while. Just pause to see whether the way you’re living your life suits the person you are today. Whether your relationships are still satisfactory, and serve your needs. Whether your hobbies still make you happy, or feel like routines. A conversation like this isn’t always easy. It requires you to take an honest look in the mirror and admit that some things suited the old you, not the present you. That’s scary, because admitting so means you’ll need to change some things. However, there’s one thing even scarier, and that’s living a life that’s a 6 while it could have been an eight – simply because you dreaded change.
Text: Joanne Wienen – Photo: Bruno Cervera